Words like relationship, love, romance, and such are often heard among today’s youngsters. These things hold significant importance in a person’s life—loving someone, making them happy, and going to any lengths to maintain and preserve this love is ingrained in our DNA. We all know the extent to which Lord Rama went to bring back his Sita, or the examples of Lord Krishna and Radha, Lord Shiva and Parvati, which make us aware of what true love is.
In today’s article ‘What do girls want in a relationship?‘, we will talk about the fundamental aspects of a healthy and lifelong relationship from a female point of view—what they expect in their relationship. Nowadays, we boys often don’t know what our partners want in a relationship, which is why their relationship breaks, even though it could have lasted forever. Trust me, I didn’t know these things either until I observed them recently. So let’s learn about all the things that a girl expects from her partner but never openly expresses.
What do girls want in a relationship?
1. She wants you to pamper her.
One of the most common things that girls want from their partner is for them to listen to all their thoughts attentively, to comfort them with love, to make them feel secure, and most importantly, if they are feeling sad in front of you, hug them without saying anything or giving advice.
Often, we boys listen to their concerns and think that it’s such a small or insignificant issue. But no, it’s not like that at all, because the evolution of males and females has happened in quite different ways, and their minds perceive situations, emotions, and things very differently.
We boys should try to understand the emotions behind our partner’s words rather than looking for logic and practicality in them. It’s not about logic if your partner is feeling emotions about something. Because the meaning of love is to go through things together, whether it is happiness or sorrow.
Note: Girls should especially keep in mind that not every guy who pampers you a lot is right for you. And if a guy does not pamper you much or is not very expressive, it does not mean that he does not love you. You also need to understand what type of person he is.
2. Trust
Trust is a word that is often made a mockery of by deceitful people. Whether we talk about relationships, friendships, family, or anything else, if there is a lack of trust, those relationships can never reach their full potential.
From the perspective of a relationship, a high-value woman will never allow trust issues with her partner by putting in her efforts. When she achieves this through her hard work, she will not want you to doubt or mistrust her without reason. In any relationship, the biggest desire of a partner is for the other person to trust them, and this is a hallmark of any healthy and happy relationship.
Note: Trust is a crucial ingredient for any relationship, but it is equally important to build and maintain it.
3. She wants you to share everything with her.
One of the biggest problems boys face is that they don’t share everything with their loved ones, or they don’t want to do so. This is because we feel that by doing so, we might also upset the other person. People often share their happiness first and foremost with the one they love, but share their troubles very little.
Girls notice all these things very well, and they don’t like it at all. They don’t feel valued because, no matter what’s going on in their lives, they share every little thing with you. They also want the same from you, which makes them feel very special and valued.
Note: Often in a relationship, when we argue, we bring up those things our partner shared with us in confidence. We should avoid doing this because those things might be very delicate and sensitive for the other person.
4. Respect her.
I know this is quite a basic point and you must already be respecting your partner. However, sometimes we men unintentionally disrespect the other person without even realizing it. But women understand these things very well and often can’t forget them for a long time.
There are three essential pillars in any relationship: trust, loyalty, and respect. The building of love and a relationship stands on these three pillars.
Note: As we just discussed how important respect is in any relationship and love towards each other, it is equally important for people to know how to earn and maintain respect.
5. Be available for her.
Girls are very sweet and emotional beings. Often, they need someone who can validate their feelings and emotions and listen to them. In their mind, the first person they think of in this regard is the boy they are in a relationship with.
But sometimes, we boys are so caught up in our lives and work that, even if we want to, we can’t give enough time to the most important person in our world. However, we should try to give our female partner as much time as possible and make them feel our love.
Note: Sometimes you also need to understand that your partner has a career and dreams. If he or she is busy with her career or some important things, you should understand the situation too.
6. Clear their insecurities.
In today’s era of social media, where people have unlimited exposure, making connections and sharing one’s feelings has become easier, but this has also led to increasing insecurities between partners day by day.
We have to accept the fact that where there is love, there are some insecurities as well. We men should handle this situation with a lot of sensitivity and love, because women tend to be very delicate and overthinkers when it comes to insecurities about their partners. Therefore, we should set aside our egos and lovingly and affectionately answer all their questions.
Note: Having insecurities in a relationship and in love is not a very big or bad thing. How you react to this with your partner shapes the future of your relationship.
7. Transparency.
Trust issues, insecurities, or major fights won’t arise in a relationship if you don’t hide things from the person you claim to love. Because no one in the world likes being lied to, especially when you’ve decided to spend your life with them.
Note: Transparency in any relationship is like oxygen. Your relationship can’t breathe without it, because no one can trust their partner when hidden things come to light.
8. Mutual understanding for goals.
Often, relationships start at an age when one needs to focus the most on their future. Therefore, it’s very important to have a partner who understands your goals and supports you in achieving them. Very few couples manage to maintain their relationship from start to finish. What could be more satisfying than achieving your individual goals together and growing and maturing as a couple?
Note: You may have seen many relationships around you where both partners are just focused on each other. For a healthy, happy, and future-ready relationship, it’s crucial to find a balance between your goals and love.
9. Acceptance.
In any relationship, acceptance is very important. There are many small things that you might not like about each other. If these things are not severely impacting your relationship, you should avoid focusing too much on them.
Sometimes, we, as men, try to micro-manage our relationships, which can irritate our partners. Therefore, for the happiness of your partner, you should stop questioning every little thing if it does not affect the relationship negatively.
Note: It is absolutely true that your partner should accept all of your traits. However, it is also your responsibility to ensure that you do not misuse this acceptance and trust.
10. Be patient.
In relationships, there will often be situations where it feels like enough is enough. But it is precisely in such difficult situations that the true test of a relationship occurs, and couples who manage to overcome these challenges have a much stronger bond.
We men are often known for our impatient behavior. However, a high-value person never gives up on their love, and women tend to realize this eventually. Therefore, whenever a situation gets tense or there is an argument, take a moment to calm yourself, and handle things with patience and composure.
Note: Just as the water in a deep well can run dry, similarly, a person’s patience can wear out if repeatedly tested. Therefore, never test someone’s calmness and patience through your actions.
11. Understand her love language.
In any relationship, it’s very important to maintain love. For example, if you express your feelings in German to a Japanese girl, but the other person doesn’t understand your expression of love, then it doesn’t mean anything.
Similarly, if you keep showing love in your own way but your partner’s love language is different, then it can be largely ineffective.
We men especially need to learn that our female partner understand our love through the things we do that align with their love language.
- It could be that her love language is talking to you, but you are taking her to see a movie.
- It could be that she wants to sit quietly with you, but you are taking her around.
- She might want to hug you and sit quietly for 10 minutes, but you are taking her on a date.
The point is that you should be able to show love to your partner in a language in which they can feel your love, rather than forcing it only in your way. The love language frequency should be 50-50%—some in your way and some in their way.
Note: Partners also need to understand that the person with you shows love in their own way. For example:
- Trying to correct your mistakes to stay together always.
- Having long discussions about your right and wrong.
- Getting things that are important for you.
- Always being ready to do everything so that you never have to be apart.
It’s possible that your partner’s way of expressing love is completely different from yours. But what’s important is that their love is reaching you in any language.
Start understanding your partner’s love languages from now on and communicate in them, while also continuing to shower them with love in your own way.
12. Show efforts.
Often, we men make the mistake in our relationships of not letting our loved ones know how much we care about them. This causes our relationships to suffer.
Women often expect their partners to show effort in demonstrating how much they care. You don’t need to do grand gestures to show this effort. By spending time and creating something special, you can convey your efforts to your loved one. For example:
- Writing a letter
- Randomly messaging how much you love them
- Giving gifts within your budget
- Cooking for them with your own hands
- Doing activities they enjoy
There are many other ways to show your love. To strengthen your relationship, it is essential to make these efforts.
Conclusion
True love and relationships are often considered pure and sensitive matters, especially in today’s world where people seem to have forgotten the value of true love. Those who take relationships seriously often face many difficulties and negative thoughts.
In today’s world of social media, web series, and movies, true love seems to be ridiculed. In contrast, breakup, hookups, switching relationships, and cheating are often portrayed in a way that makes them seem cool to the younger generation. Such content is significantly influencing society in a wrong way, attempting to normalize these behaviors.
I can give you more than a hundred examples where cheating and other negative actions are glamorized. However, there are also numerous examples where true love and affection are portrayed. You just need to choose what kind of content you want to let influence you.
Betrayal and dishonesty in relationships were never cool, nor are they cool today, and they will never be cool in the future.
Where there are problems, there are also solutions, and the only effective solution is to strengthen your own ethics, morality, and boundaries so that such negative influences cannot affect you.
It’s not just about content; people often take actions influenced by their friends’ advice that compromise their relationships, ethics, principles, morality, and boundaries. The remedy for this is to mentally grow so that you are not influenced by negative things.
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End Note
True love, a trustworthy or loyal person is a bit difficult to find these days. In a relationship, if you find someone who meets these criteria, you can manage everything else easily. Therefore, if you have a partner who fits these criteria or is trying to be so, you should not let them go.